Bad Advice: If you can’t say something good about somebody, say nothing at all.”

NEVER SAY…By Gene Griessman 

“If you can’t say something good about somebody, say nothing at all.”

This actually should be Seldom say instead of Never say because it is good advice for inhabitants of little villages where everyone knows everything about everybody and word would probably get back to the person you were saying bad things about, which could lead to a considerable amount of unpleasantness.

And it sometimes is a prudent course of action in any small, close-knit group, rural or urban.

But this bit of folk wisdom has little value in the world that you and I now inhabit. I want know if a movie is dreadful, a restaurant serves unsavory fare, if a company can’t be trusted, if somebody I just met is dangerous.

And it’s terrible advice if I’m asked to give an honest recommendation in a situation that’s critical.

Hearing something bad can spare you embarrassment, time, money, and maybe even your life.


THE Lincoln Quotation Book

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The Words Lincoln Lived By is a stirring, inspirational treasury of quotations from our greatest and most admired president. Composed of Lincoln’s profound observations—one for every week of the year, each followed by a short commentary that provides historical context—the book offers rich material for interpretation, reflection, and spiritual guidance. In these pages, Lincoln, famed as an orator, shares his wisdom on courage and determination, compassion and compromise, tolerance and tact—the essential traits that define character. The timeless impact of his words is as powerful as the achievements that have helped to make him an American hero.

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Creative Procrastination: Great Quotes

In Defense Of Idleness.                                        By Gene Griessman 

Gene Griessman

Procrastination can be a good thing. In fact busyness is all too often creativity’s enemy.

An idle brain may be the devil’s workshop but it may be God’s workshop, too.

Countless breakthroughs in science, technology, spirituality, and art have occurred during leisurely moments. The richest soil can be overworked, depleted of its vigor, needs to lie fallow

Here’s what Leonardo da Vinci had to say on this subject:

Men of lofty genius sometimes accomplish the most when they work least.” He explained, “Their minds are occupied with their ideas and the perfection of their conceptions to which they afterwards give form.”


THE Lincoln Quotation Book

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The Words Lincoln Lived By is a stirring, inspirational treasury of quotations from our greatest and most admired president. Composed of Lincoln’s profound observations—one for every week of the year, each followed by a short commentary that provides historical context—the book offers rich material for interpretation, reflection, and spiritual guidance. In these pages, Lincoln, famed as an orator, shares his wisdom on courage and determination, compassion and compromise, tolerance and tact—the essential traits that define character. The timeless impact of his words is as powerful as the achievements that have helped to make him an American hero.

We’ve found numerous phony quotes on popular websites and quote books. Every Lincoln quotation in this book is authentic.

 

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SHOW NO SLIDE BEFORE ITS TIME

SHOW NO SLIDE BEFORE ITS TIME  

By Tom Nixon 

Sitting in on a presentation recently, I noticed that the speaker had a habit of advancing to the next slide well before he was ready to speak about it. He was almost finished with the previous topic and had not yet begun to verbally transition to his next point.

Instead of blacking out the screen until he began his next topic he was showing the upcoming visual before it made sense to the audience. I am sure everyone was preoccupied with figuring out where he was going. An unnecessary distraction.

The lesson: Be aware of what you are saying and how it coordinates with what is on the screen. Show no slide before its time.

Tom Nixon is an acclaimed graphics strategist who is a consultant to senior executives worldwide. For information call ‭(770) 289-0752


THE Lincoln Quotation Book

Don’t get embarrassed using a spurious Lincoln quote. Here’s a quotation book you can trust

The Words Lincoln Lived By is a stirring, inspirational treasury of quotations from our greatest and most admired president. Composed of Lincoln’s profound observations—one for every week of the year, each followed by a short commentary that provides historical context—the book offers rich material for interpretation, reflection, and spiritual guidance. In these pages, Lincoln, famed as an orator, shares his wisdom on courage and determination, compassion and compromise, tolerance and tact—the essential traits that define character. The timeless impact of his words is as powerful as the achievements that have helped to make him an American hero.

We’ve found numerous phony quotes on popular websites and quote books. Every Lincoln quotation in this book is authentic.

 

 

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Lincoln’s “Public Opinion Baths”

“Men moving only in an official circle are apt to become merely official, not to say arbitrary, in their ideas, and are apter and apter, with each passing day, to forget that they only hold power in a representative capacity.”  —Abraham Lincoln

 

Don’t get embarrassed using a spurious Lincoln quote. Here’s a quotation book you can trust

The Words Lincoln Lived By is a stirring, inspirational treasury of quotations from our greatest and most admired president. Composed of Lincoln’s profound observations—one for every week of the year, each followed by a short commentary that provides historical context—the book offers rich material for interpretation, reflection, and spiritual guidance. In these pages, Lincoln, famed as an orator, shares his wisdom on courage and determination, compassion and compromise, tolerance and tact—the essential traits that define character. The timeless impact of his words is as powerful as the achievements that have helped to make him an American hero.

We’ve found numerous phony quotes on popular websites and quote books. Every Lincoln quotation in this book is authentic.

 

 

 

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Projection: What’s in a Word

Projection: What’s In a Word                                                     By Gene Griessman  

Someone is a pathological liar but he calls other people dishonest.

Someone is corrupt but he calls other people crooked.

Someone says he believes in family values but molests children.

That’s what projection looks and sounds like.

Now for the definition.

Projection is a psychological defense mechanism that enables individuals to avoid unpleasant feelings about themselves by attributing to other people what they do not acknowledge in themselves.

As Freud used the term, projection usually occurs at the unconscious level.

But in politics this kind of behavior is usually conscious and deliberate. As a tactic it deflects attention away from one’s own reprehensible behavior to someone else.

The other guy is lying, not me.


Don’t get embarrassed using a spurious Lincoln quote. Here’s a quotation book you can trust

The Words Lincoln Lived By is a stirring, inspirational treasury of quotations from our greatest and most admired president. Composed of Lincoln’s profound observations—one for every week of the year, each followed by a short commentary that provides historical context—the book offers rich material for interpretation, reflection, and spiritual guidance. In these pages, Lincoln, famed as an orator, shares his wisdom on courage and determination, compassion and compromise, tolerance and tact—the essential traits that define character. The timeless impact of his words is as powerful as the achievements that have helped to make him an American hero.

We’ve found numerous phony quotes on popular websites and quote books. Every Lincoln quotation in this book is authentic.

 

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Journalism And History: What’s The Difference?

What’s in a word…

”Daily journalism is mostly what just happened; history is what it means.” —Tim Weiner

 


 

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“Closing” a Sale

  • Closing” a Sale: What’s In A Word       By Gene Griessman 

A salesman recently told me that he doesn’t like the expression “closing” a sale. Said it sounds like manipulation. Said a close is something you do to someone. Said he does consultative selling.
Said he doesn’t close a sale. He begins a relationship.

I did direct selling in order to earn money for college. My sales manager used the word “close” without hesitation to describe what he expected me to do. He even had a close that had been written by a superstar that I could memorize, which I did.

Using that “close” I made quite a bit of money selling a product (high-end cookware) that customers loved.

So, is this just much ado about semantics? Let’s see.

My salesman friend is right about one thing. A close is something you do to the other person. You guide that person to a decision. You persuade that person to act. You bring the selling part of the transaction to an end. What you’re seeking is closure.

So I don’t have a problem with the word. But I completely agree that a “close” can also be the start of something…a pleasant and mutually beneficial relationship.

 

Don’t get embarrassed using a spurious Lincoln quote. Here’s a quotation book you can trust

The Words Lincoln Lived By is a stirring, inspirational treasury of quotations from our greatest and most admired president. Composed of Lincoln’s profound observations—one for every week of the year, each followed by a short commentary that provides historical context—the book offers rich material for interpretation, reflection, and spiritual guidance. In these pages, Lincoln, famed as an orator, shares his wisdom on courage and determination, compassion and compromise, tolerance and tact—the essential traits that define character. The timeless impact of his words is as powerful as the achievements that have helped to make him an American hero.

We’ve found numerous phony quotes on popular websites and quote books. Every Lincoln quotation in this book is authentic.

 

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Listen Before You Speak: Lincoln’s “Public Opinion Baths”

Before You Speak, Listen
By Gene Griessman

Abraham Lincoln never questioned the right of his subordinates, or the general public, to say what they thought. In fact he very much wanted to hear what others had to say. His listening skills were legendary

On a visit to the White House in 1863, Major

Abraham Lincoln

General Charles G. Halpine was surprised to find one of its rooms full of people waiting to see the President. Halpine suggested that Lincoln screen visitors the way generals did.

Lincoln disagreed with his general:
“Men moving only in an official circle are apt to become merely official, not to say arbitrary, in their ideas, and are apter and apter, with each passing day, to forget that they only hold power in a representative capacity.

“Now this is all wrong. I go into these promiscuous receptions of all who claim to have business with me twice each week, and every applicant for audience has to take his turn as if waiting to be shaved in a barber’s shop.

“Many of the matters brought to my notice are utterly frivolous, but others are of more or less importance, and all serve to renew in me a clearer and more vivid image of that great popular assemblage, out of which I sprang, and to which at the end of two years I must return.

“I tell you, Major, that I call these receptions my public-opinion baths; for I have but little time to read the papers and gather public opinion that way, and though they may not be pleasant in all their particulars, the effect as a whole is renovating and invigorating to my perceptions of responsibility and duty.”

Lincoln was right. Many of the great intelligence lapses of history—for example, Hitler’s invasion of Russia caught Stalin off guard even though his spies knew—-have occurred because those who knew the truth felt that those in power did not want to hear it.

Whether you’re selling, negotiating, teaching, parenting, arguing a case in court, or holding a political office, you’ll be better at it if you listen before you speak.


Don’t get embarrassed using a spurious Lincoln quote. Here’s a quotation book you can trust

The Words Lincoln Lived By is a stirring, inspirational treasury of quotations from our greatest and most admired president. Composed of Lincoln’s profound observations—one for every week of the year, each followed by a short commentary that provides historical context—the book offers rich material for interpretation, reflection, and spiritual guidance. In these pages, Lincoln, famed as an orator, shares his wisdom on courage and determination, compassion and compromise, tolerance and tact—the essential traits that define character. The timeless impact of his words is as powerful as the achievements that have helped to make him an American hero.

We’ve found numerous phony quotes on popular websites and quote books. Every Lincoln quotation in this book is authentic.

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How To Say You’re Not Interested

A Quick, Polite Way To Say You’re Not Interested

Gene Griessman

In the past I’ve participated in an international house exchange. I like the concept so much that not long ago I contacted a family in Paris that participates in the program.

They turned down my offer. Perhaps they were more interested in another location or maybe their plans changed.

Their No was a model of what a rejection note should do and not do. It did not go into wordy details. And it held out no false hope that my offer might be accepted later, though it did not rule that out.

Dear Gene,

Thank you for the offer, but we are not able to consider it at this time. Good luck.

It is a simple No. Just two sentences. But it works.


Don’t get embarrassed using a spurious Lincoln quote. Here’s a quotation book you can trust

The Words Lincoln Lived By is a stirring, inspirational treasury of quotations from our greatest and most admired president. Composed of Lincoln’s profound observations—one for every week of the year, each followed by a short commentary that provides historical context—the book offers rich material for interpretation, reflection, and spiritual guidance. In these pages, Lincoln, famed as an orator, shares his wisdom on courage and determination, compassion and compromise, tolerance and tact—the essential traits that define character. The timeless impact of his words is as powerful as the achievements that have helped to make him an American hero.

Every Lincoln quotation in this book is authentic.

 

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How You Say It: Talk Low

  • How You Say It: Talk Low      By Gene Griessman

“Talk low, talk slow, and don’t say too much.” —Cowboy saying

This advice from the American West has come to be associated with the actor John Wayne, who according to one account offered it as acting guidance to Michael Caine.

The cowboys, and John Wayne, actually may have been on to something.

According to one recent study, people are more likely to rise in the ranks and make a higher income if their voices are low.

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Think about it. A high-pitched voice suggests overwrought emotion, maybe hysteria. There’s just so much of that that anyone will willingly endure for long.

My grandson Peter is a kind sensitive lad who will look for a way to leave the room if its occupants begin to raise their voices.

There you have it. RAISE their voices.

A low voice suggests that the speaker is rational, deliberate, in control, centered. And that may explain the results described in the next paragraph.

After studying almost 800 male CEOs, professors from Duke and the University of California system concluded that CEOs on the deeper end of the vocal spectrum are paid, on average, $187,000 more in salary, than male CEOs on the upper end.

Male CEOs with deeper voices also run companies with $400 million more assets than the companies run by male CEOs with higher voices.

There you have it. Talk low. Move up. Get high pay.

That said, I’m now going to rain on my own parade. Contrary to what millions of visitors to the Magic Kingdom’s Hall of Presidents have been led to believe, Abraham Lincoln’s voice was decidedly in the upper register, which was so noticeable that many of his contemporaries commented on it.

The Lincoln exception notwithstanding, I think there is something here. You may want to give some thought and practice to lowering your voice. It’s easier to listen to and it suggests gravitas.

How you say it may actually be as important as what you say.


Don’t get embarrassed using a spurious Lincoln quote.  Here’s a quotation book you can trust  

The Words Lincoln Lived By is a stirring, inspirational treasury of quotations from our greatest and most admired president. Composed of Lincoln’s profound observations—one for every week of the year, each followed by a short commentary that provides historical context—the book offers rich material for interpretation, reflection, and spiritual guidance. In these pages, Lincoln, famed as an orator, shares his wisdom on courage and determination, compassion and compromise, tolerance and tact—the essential traits that define character. The timeless impact of his words is as powerful as the achievements that have helped to make him an American hero.

Unlike many quote books, every single Lincoln quotation in this book is authentic.

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