Category Archives: Arguments/How To Argue

How To Negotiate And Win Arguments:Lessons from Abraham Lincoln and John C. Calhoun

What You Say When You Argue and Negotiate: How LINCOLN Did It by Gene Griessman, Ph.D. You don’t have to win every single skirmish in a debate or negotiation to be victorious in the end.  In fact, it can be … Continue reading

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How To Agree-Disagree With Someone

What You Say If You Disagree With Part Of What Someone Says by Gene Griessman, Ph.D. In the movie “Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy” there’s an intense scene in which the British intelligence officer George Smiley (played by Gary Oldman) confronts … Continue reading

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Marriage and Relationship Advice: How To Talk About An Issue

What You Say When You Have A Conflict With Someone You Care About by Gene Griessman, Ph.D. Recently one of my relatives attended a retreat with her husband of 20-plus years. She came back excited about the experience. What she … Continue reading

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Speaking Tip: When To Give A Long Speech

When To Make A Long Speech:  What Would Abraham Lincoln Do? by Gene Griessman, Ph.D. The Gettysburg Address was just two minutes long. It it is recognized today as one of the finest speeches ever given in the English language.   … Continue reading

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Agree Disagree Statement: Say It With Good Humor

What You Say If You Want To Disagree With Someone, And Make That Person Smile One of our readers has sent Whatyousay.com a humorous agree or disagree statement that I’d like to share with you.  If is almost guaranteed to … Continue reading

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Andrew Jackson on Diplomacy: How To Be Tactful

What You Say When You Want To Express Disappointment by Gene Griessman, Ph.D. Andrew Jackson is remembered as a man of violent passions, prickly, and always ready for a fight, not for his tact. But on one occasion, Jackson’s response … Continue reading

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How To Disagree: A Lesson From Nicolas Sarkozy, President of France

What You Say When You Want To Tactfully Disagree With A Journalist by Gene Griessman, Ph.D. Whatyousay.com is continually searching for skillful ways to disagree when someone makes a statement that you don’t accept. We’ve found that comments by experienced … Continue reading

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Cope With Difficult People: Ask Them This Question

What You Say When You Are Asked A Question That You Don’t Wish To Answer by Gene Griessman, Ph.D. If someone asks you a pointed question that’s intrusive or impertinent, turn the tables on them by asking: “Does it matter?” … Continue reading

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An Elegant Way To Disagree from “The English Patient”

What You Say When You Disagree: An example from the movie “The English Patient” by Gene Griessman, Ph.D. Here’s an extraordinary example of a skillful way to disagree. Mind you, it will not work if you are not very well … Continue reading

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How To Agree To Disagree: A Useful Example by Rachel Maddow

What You Say When You Can’t Agree, But Want To Continue The Discussion by Gene Griessman, Ph.D. If the other individual has expressed a point of view that you can’t agree with, and you’ve had a chance to say what … Continue reading

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