What You Say When You Disagree, But Don’t Want To Disrupt The Flow Of The Argument by Gene Griessman, Ph.D.
Here’s an effective way to register your disagreement without disrupting the flow of the conversation.
The way I discovered this technique? It was used on me.
I was in a conversation with a banker friend recently regarding my concerns about how long it was taking to refinance a mortgage. Was it possible, I wondered, if the bank was deliberating dragging out the process–the delays had been long and maddening–in order to make as much money for as long as possible? After all, if a big bank is able to delay the process by just one month for hundreds of thousands of applications, the difference will be in the millions of dollars. Certainly somebody is making extra dollars as a result of the delay.
The banker, who’s with another bank, replied, “There is a flaw in your argument, which we don’t have to discuss now, unless you’d like to.”
His parry was brilliant in its simplicity–courteous and thoughtful. We actually did discuss the “flaw” for a few moments before moving on to a different matter.
Try it out yourself: “There is a flaw in your argument, which we don’t have to discuss now, unless you’d like to.” It worked for me.
If you want to use this technique in a media interview, you can say, “There’s a flaw in that argument, which we could discuss if you’d like.”
–Gene Griessman is an internationally known keynote speaker, actor, and consultant. His video “Lincoln on Communication” is owned by thousands of corporations, libraries, and government organizations. He has spoken at conventions all over the world. To learn more about his presentations, contact us at 404-256-5927, 404-435-2225, or firstname.lastname@example.org Learn more about Gene Griessman at www.presidentlincoln.com and www.atlantaspeakersbureau.com
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